I write for women business owners who are successful, capable, and quietly exhausted by how much they carry and still somehow wonder if it's enough. I'm Amanda. I'm not your hype girl. I'm the friend who gets it. Subscribe for honest, weekly notes on what it actually feels like to do a lot and still give yourself permission to pause.
You have a restart pattern
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Hey Reader, Yesterday I told you that you don’t have a discipline problem. Today I’m going to name what you do have. You have a restart pattern. A restart pattern is different from adjustment and moving forward. This week on the podcast I talk about one of my favorite phrases: “Miss it and move on” Adjusting the plan is a fantastic tool to use when life throws you off. But a restart pattern is different. Here’s how it works:
Then real life shows up.
The plan collapses. And instead of adjusting it, you abandon it. Not dramatically. “I’ll pick this back up next month.” And then… you restart later but the same pattern continues to happen. Ambitious women don’t abandon plans because they lack ambition. They end up in the restart pattern because they overcommitted and when there’s no structure holding the commitment in place, it’s easy to renegotiate. This is not a character flaw. It’s a structural issue. And structural issues can be fixed. I’ll share exactly how you can fix this in a future email this week but tomorrow I’m going to talk about the part no one warns you about, the hidden cost of restarting. This episode was inspired by the phrase "Miss It & Move On" from my dear friend, Dr. Megan Spears 🩷
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You're doing a lot...and it still doesn't feel like enough.
I write for women business owners who are successful, capable, and quietly exhausted by how much they carry and still somehow wonder if it's enough. I'm Amanda. I'm not your hype girl. I'm the friend who gets it. Subscribe for honest, weekly notes on what it actually feels like to do a lot and still give yourself permission to pause.
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